Wednesday, September 1, 2010

The Mask

How much do we hide in our daily life ? How much of a mask do we wear ? The people we meet everyday or those we think of as near and dear,confide in,believe to be faithful and trustworthy-how much can we trust them actually ? How much should they trust us  ? Don’t I wear a mask from time to time ? Don’t we feign friendship with people whom we might not like ? Aren’t we,the women-the master artistes ?
Women are taught to be hypocrites-they should mask their feelings-their sorrow,their dissatisfaction,their pain-instead of opining on some matter,they should act dumb-they should act as if everything is well and good-that she’s happy,as long as the sun rises in the east and sets in the west !!
Then how can someone judge a woman for being the hypocrite she is,when the same society teaches her to be so ? On one hand , society wants a woman to wear a mask – only a mask can make a woman perfect in all aspects…No displays of emotions,of any kind is the way to be..And then,when time comes-the same woman can be railed against for being bit of a pretender. Times have changed a lot, but certain norms of society hasn’t !!
As a woman,how much do we judge another of our own sex ?  On one hand,we pretend to be all for feminism..and then,we find faults and shortcoming of others..A woman who have gone through emotional distress and sufferings at the hands of another, eventually behaves the same way when her time comes to take a leading role in the family – I wonder,why not think for minute to reminisce about how she had felt  and find out ways to better the new relations in her life,to be a different person-After all,shouldn’t we all learn from our pains and sufferings ??
Should we continue wearing the mask,for better or for worse ? Should we keep masking our feelings,to bring true happiness for someone else,although we might be as virtually happy as someone can be....And which might in the long run,make all of us terribly unhappy ?!


  1. Sulagna,

    You have left me to ponder ..... so very true that we are all hypocrites. Well our society wants us to be so. Very nicely put.


  2. I agree with you for the most part..very thoughtful write up!!

  3. This is the eternal philosophical debate which will just keep on going...Though we blame the society, we allow them to wear us masks, or rather we love to wear the masks....Women wear masks because they know the true meaning of love, they always want to make the loved one happy any way...where there is love there is sacrifice...and the mask is on the other hand the symbol of sacrifice....whenever you are masking yourself, you are sacrificing something....So may be we are hypocrites,but as long as we are madly in love we will be like this only...we will wear the masks to make every body smile around us......So I think we are winner in some sense, at least we have the power to survive and make the world survived...

  4. hi sulagna,

    this is a highly debatable issue ... why we wear masks ... why do we mask our feeling ... if we cant control our feeling we would look very rash n we have a attitude problem ... this is what we are taught by our parents n do we want to do the same with our children ? so were our parent wrong ? No they werent it depends on situation so it good to teach our children to adjust to situation n if that means wearing a mask sometimes to protect ourselves... this makes us more mature to manage all situations life ... and not react instantly. We cannot judge anybody as we really do not know why they are like that ? Like life with a smile on ur face.


  5. Very interospective and thought provoking post Sulagna...It's a fact we mask our feeling many times just to please the social norms...I have read long time ago...."MAN IS BORN FREE BUT ALWAYS IN CHAINS"...

  6. Wish you and your family a very Happy Janmashtami.
    Very nice and thoughtful post. Very well written.

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  8. Very thought provoking note. Left me wondering. We as women have to fit into many roles such as wife,Mother, Professional etc. in a day to day life and it is true that in order to act according to long laid social norms the mask has to be worn. The choice is ultimately ours depending upon the degree of sacrifices w have to make.
    Well Written.

    Hamaree Rasoi

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